Grabbed your attention, didn’t I? Well, let’s consider three things before you just yell back, “No! You Shut Up!”
First, it is reported that Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said “I stood at the gate of Paradise and saw that the majority of the people who entered it were the poor, while the wealthy were stopped at the gate (for the accounts). But the companions of the Hellfire were ordered to be taken to the Fire. Then I stood at the gate of the Hellfire and saw that the majority of those who entered it were women.” (Bukhari, Muslim, Ahmed)
Second, it is reported that Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said “A person utters a word thoughtlessly (i.e., without thinking about it being good or not, or if these words have any significance that will raise their ranks in Heaven) and, as a result of this, he will fall down into the fire of Hell deeper than the distance between the east and the west.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim).
Third, sins of the tongue include but are not limited to:
- Picking fun at,
- Ungrateful remarks,
- Negative talk, anger, and unwarranted disappointment,
- Sharing your disapproval of others to everyone except the one involved,
- Making hypocritical remarks and acting indifferently to said person,
- Sharing private secrets and/or intimate moments between a married couple,
- Entering into debates solely to stir up emotions and cause harm,
- Maintaining an argument out of defensiveness and insecurity,
- Making emotional assumptions public without giving the other party the benefit of doubt,
- Jumping to conclusions without said facts and acting inappropriately prematurely,
- Stating someone is guilty without seeking justice,
- Manipulating others,
- Dissuading others from seeing the truth, and
- Talking simply because one is unaware of the beauty of silence, or deep and reflexive thought.
While it is a known fact that women presently and will continue to out-number males in the world’s population, and one can debate that this may be a logical reason that women will out-number men in Hellfire. However, one can also argue the fact that when compared to men, women are more apt to participate in one or many of above stated sins of the tongue once in awhile and in many cases: often.
So, since we as Muslim women have the profound ability to bring the only true joy to this world through our piety, righteousness, and silence; if given the opportunity to talk or not, won’t you just consider shutting up?
Now, based on the given stated facts and proposing the above questions, the logic used above does not touch upon the stereotypical belief that Muslim wives are submissive. Quite the contrary, in fact there are many examples that when a pious, righteous Muslim male leader had a pious, righteous, intelligent, loving, charitable wife, together they ruled their families and the public at large.
Make every word count. Dare to make your words meaningful and memorable. Words when said with accompanying tones hold power. So, give words the strength of your character, and not your weakness of your flaws.
Just like everything we do in this life, when seeking to please Allah and Him Alone, we will gain from the pleasures of this world and the hereafter. Rather than enter into acts that seem easily harmless, and ultimately harmful; such as the numerous sins or “slips of the tongue” stated above–choose to reflect peacefully and walk away from such circumstances. Distance yourself from negative situations. Offer a charitable smile, and dare to be a pious leader, one who can effect change by choosing to use your tongue wisely–or simply just keeping it inside your mouth.
I’m extremely interested in the feelings, emotions, connections or disconnect you felt in reading this post. Please share your comments below. For discussing this topic is not the time to shut up!