Kindness is beautiful and appealing…it’s no doubt every child (or person) expects this of his/her mother. Let us contemplate on the beauty of Allah’s words below, as we remember that our kids are an adornment and blessing.
Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world. But the good righteous deeds, that last, are better with your Lord for rewards and better in respect of hope. [Qur’an 18:46]
Then We gave you a return of victory over them. And We helped you with wealth and children and made you more numerous in man-power. [Qur’an, 17:6]
We should keep our children’s relationships with us to the highest esteem filled with patience, affection, honor, compassion, and tender love. Allowing them to always fill our hearts with happiness, especially during the trials of disobedience, is easier said than done. However, in doing so, we are fulfilling our duties to Allah subhan Allahu wa Ta’ala by increasing our ummah with pious, righteous, devout servants.
Kids model their caregivers. If we’re quick-tempered, reactionary, harsh, and rushed; they will have this temperament as well.
When we teach our children out of annoyance, it becomes obvious to them that they are not important and disobedience, rebellion, and resentment are typical human reactions. They begin to rebel both the parent and more importantly (and sadly) our perfect deen, way of life of Islam.
However, if we teach our children out of obligation to please Allah subhan Allahu wa Ta’ala, our loving tenderness overcomes us, and results in a welcomed actions and words. Thereby causing our children to rush to please and obey both the parent and Our Most Perfect Creator.
While we can never be as merciful as ar-Rahman (Du’a #4), we must allow ourselves the strength and time to listen patiently, so we can better understand our children and be more just and merciful. Undoubtedly, this is much harder to do as it takes much longer than screaming out “You’re wrong! Go to your room!”. However, the results are profound because our children will always know that he/she can and should always turn to his/her mother first no matter what!
So, when something happens between you and your children that pleases you today, say what the Prophet sallalahu alayhi wa salam used to say when he saw something pleasing:
Praise is to allah Who by His blessings all good things are perfected.
When something happens that displeases you, follow the Rasul’s sallalahu alayhi wa salam as well, by saying
Praise is to Allah in all circumstances.
May we only have pleasing situations today. May we stay patient, calm and maintain a pleasing attitude even during unpleasant situations. Ameen!
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