Being a mom is often a thankless job. The screams of “Mommmm” ring throughout our homes, only to notify us that we must clean up the newest mess, mediate between multiple children, or cater to one’s biggest smallest of wounds. So, the call of “Mom” is often an unwelcome beckoning to the next unexpected circumstance. Rather than approach these inevitable events in this dreaded fashion, let’s remind ourselves how incredibly awesome it is to be a Muslim Mom in the first place. In Allah’s Glorious words,
And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years – give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination. [Qur’an, 31:14]
In Islam, we are honored as mothers for:
- Bearing the hardships of pregnancy,
- Giving birth, and
- Weaning each child after nursing for whatever length of time, be it an hour or 30 months.
By undergoing these three actions, our children are obliged to obey us. How awesome is that!?
Do you remember those glorious innocent years of having a newborn? A time when our babies wanted nothing else from us except to play, be held, hugged, and kissed? They obeyed our every command, because we were with them all the time. We were present with them at that moment in time.
Subhan Allah, those wonderful baby years helped us forget the heavy-weighted lopsided awkwardness of pregnancy, the painful hours of labor and birth, and even the smells of dirty diapers.
It was easier to grasp to the positive moments because there were so many more–or so we think. Once our children start to talk, they quickly learn how to keep us accountable for our own words, and what may be perceived as talking back can just be their innocent inquisitive questioning.
I believe much of our anxiety comes from not living in the present. And, the best way to always stay present, is to always turn to Allah subhanahu wa Ta’ala–to give thanks and ask His assistance during any of our hardships.
Have faith that in raising our children righteously, they too will only turn to Allah subhanahu wa Ta’ala and obey Him and us–as He commanded them to.
While easier said than done: Choosing to remember the positive memories and living our days positively; this is the premise of these Daily Du’a. I want you to see me as your sister in Islam, living in the trenches of motherhood striving to find peace in our faith. I believe, Insha’ Allah, that WE can do this together.
So, let’s take a moment to reflect on the virtues of remembering Allah subhanahu wa Ta’ala through these glorious words:
Therefore remember Me (by praying, glorifying), I will remember you, and be grateful to Me (for My countless Favours on you) and never be ungrateful to Me. [Qur’an, 2:152]
Verily, the Muslims (those who submit to Allah in Islam) men and women, the believers men and women (who believe in Islamic Monotheism), the men and the women who are obedient (to Allah), the men and women who are truthful (in their speech and deeds), the men and the women who are patient (in performing all the duties which Allah has ordered and in abstaining from all that Allah has forbidden), the men and the women who are humble (before their Lord – Allah), the men and the women who give Sadaqat (i.e. Zakat, and alms), the men and the women who observe Saum (fast) (the obligatory fasting during the month of Ramadan, and the optional Nawafil fasting), the men and the women who guard their chastity (from illegal sexual acts) and the men and the women who remember Allah much with their hearts and tongues, Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a great reward (i.e. Paradise). [Qur’an, 33:35]
May Allah accept our du’a. Ameen!
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